I have really slacked with this blogging thing. And in my defence it's not just about procrastination. Sometimes I am torn whether to really put things out there- like can the universe really handle what I have to say? But, I'm working on getting back on the blog wagon.
So, it's been just under 5 full months since I have started my "redesign" and what better day then my birthday to reflect on how/if I have been growing and changing.
Today was a day when as corny as it sounds, I sat back and thought "Wow, I'm lucky!" There are things that I wish I had in my life, and things I wish I could change; but when I look around I see that although I have room to grow I have the best people surronding me. I have an amazing family, fabulous coworkers and the best friends that anyone could ask for.
One thing, of the many, I have been working on is surrounding myself with people that bring out the best in me. And I am blessed that I have a diverse network of friends that support me in so many different ways.
To celebrate my 31st year, I have focused on thinking of 31 things I have learned since I started this process in Feburary. Some things I have learned the hard way, some I learned in a good way but all are things I am trying to live by.
This wisdom may be mind blowing so prepare yourself:
1. Every time you plan to take 2 consecutive days off the gym it will take you 6 to get back there, and damn will it hut.
2. Do not go bowling as a date night. You will take turns bowling and never have time to actually interact, until you get a bit drunk on the Coors and inappropriatly smack your oppenents bum for getting a strike.....
3. The Gazebo comes with pegs for a reason, ensure all four of them are in the ground before a storm comes.
4. It makes kids stronger if you do not let them win at games just cause they are kids. And sometimes in Mario Brothers they deserve to be left in the bubble. If they don't like it then maybe video games shouldn't be for kids.
5. They say you can do anything that you put your mind to, but that is not the case in trying to jump a hurdle after 15 years.
6. Putting a tracking device on your mom is not creepy- no matter what anyone has said.
7. New food can be good- as long as it's not too healthy because then the chances are that it won't taste good.
8. Don't assume everyone is judging your choices, as much as your friends love you, their world's don't revolve around you.
9. Don't challenge a former professional athlete to any competition in the gym. Chances are you will lose.
10. It's ok to need someone to talk to that is not in your inner circle. And, it feels super good when they tell you that you aren't crazy.
11. Whoever invented the technology that tells us when someone "reads" our messages may end up responsible for a lot of paranoia creation and breakdowns.
12. Reading the right self-help books will help yourself.
13. As you progress in life you realize the qualities you look for in a partner changes. Be open minded to get to know people because you expect them to do the same for you. You may not have to kiss a lot of frogs but you may have to go to dinner with them to find the right one.
14. The right friends will make things fun whether 2 or 20 people show up. Just don't cancel.
15. Celebrate little successes. However, celebrating 4 days in a row at the gym with a McDonalds value meal is not working!
16. Realize that if someone doesn't agree with you, it's not the end of the world. Well, unless it's someone important.......nope even then it won't be the end of the world.
17. Don't let a bad day make you think you have a bad life.
18. Just because another one of your friends is having a baby or getting married doesn't mean you won't.
19. Get some sleep. You can't fix most things at 1:00am so close your eyes and deal with it tomorrow.
20. Don't be defined by your job, even if you have a super cool job.
21. Never hit SEND while you are mad, crying, or drunk. Just don't do it. And, if you fail at this then don't stare at it until it says READ.
22. Buying new clothes is not a solution to working out so you can fit into your old ones.
23. You hate when people cancel so quit cancelling plans.
24. A child in the house makes it a home even if it's not your child.
25. If you are going to have a mini crisis- find one person you can trust. That friend will talk you down off the ledge, ensure things will work out, and calm you before you create complete chaos. Just find the right person to use as that rock.
26. Selling old items is theraputic, plus it buys great stuff for the backyard.
27. Find someone who doesn't text you when they are outside when picking you up for a first date. If that's how he puts his best foot forward the first day he wants to impress you, trust me it won't get better.
28. Figure out WHY you cry, to stop being a prisioner to emotion. Remember you own that emotion and don't let someone else control that.
29. Other people can be unsure of their feelings and it doesn't mean it has anything to do with you. Again, you are wonderful but other people have other shit going on that doesn't involve you.
30. As fabulous friends are, no one will ever be your rock as much as your mom. No one else will not only love you unconditionally but will do everything they can to fix any situation to make sure you never hurt. And, who else will be your personal alarm clock?
31. Take it one day at a time. When you don't have the answers just say "I'm taking it one day at a time."
Happy Birthday to me! xoxo
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